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Why is Solution Focused attitude so popular and requested in business as well as in a private environment?

I stand on two legs in my private life and in my professional life. I have clients from two basic areas. As a coach and trainer, I work with companies. With managers mostly (from middle management to directors or presidents) or sales persons. And as a therapist and coach I help individuals in their private areas.

And what is interesting, is seeing the same thing happen in both areas:

A big surprise and at the same time a relief, when we do not talk about their problems, but we devote all our energy to talk about solutions.

The client (and it doesn't matter if they are the president of the company, a self-employed person, or the mother on maternity leave) before they meet me, they are usually quite bothered by the analysis of the problem.

A thorough analysis of the problem usually makes the client an expert on the "problem", but not an expert on solving it.

You become such a "problem expert" when you can answer these kinds of questions: What exactly is the problem? When did it happen? What's the worst thing about it (or even worse - about ‘her’ or ‘him’)? Who is to blame? Why can't it be solved? What is stopping me from solving it? ...

Regardless of whether clients engage in such analyses or not, it turns out that it is much more useful to pay attention in solutions. These solutions may not be hidden in the analysis of the problem at all.

Imagine a person whose goal is to be able to give presentation to a group of colleagues, but they are prevented from doing so by feeling jittery or fear. This person comes to me and "logically" wants to talk and analyse jitters and fear. They want to get rid of them, they want to talk in front of the audience and they think that the way to do that is to pay attention to the jitters and fear.

But we know: What we pay attention to, is what grows. So, if we are going to pay attention to problems – what will grow? Problems.

Same as, when you are hungry and you are thinking about how hungry you are… in 10 minutes you will be even more hungry. You might be familiar with experiencing your brain being full of problems because you are trying to solve them… you are worried. Sometimes we even feel that “everything is a problem” or “my life is full of problems”. But to focus on the removal of an obstacle, it´s not a well-defined goal. Therefore, we need to pay attention and develop something else.

One of the possibilities is to focus on “What do we want to have instead of this problem?”

In this case: “What does the client want to have instead of jitters and fear?”. And the client can probably tell us “I want to be brave” or “I want to feel good while talking in front of an audience”. Well it is a better-defined goal. We can develop this or if you wish, we can analyse it: “When were you brave for the last time?” “How will you notice that you are brave?” “What helped you to be brave?” …and many more questions.

What I do notice almost every time is that clients feel already better when they think about these answers. Suddenly they are focused on solutions, on possibilities and on already achieved progress. Their mood, as well as their self-confidence is increasing. They potentiate their imagination towards building solutions, towards their desired future. Therefore, it is intelligible that in this kind of atmosphere people are more likely to find solutions. Those benefits can be accomplished with the support of a solution focused consultant already in first session. Sometimes within the first minutes😊 It works for complex organizational issues as well as for private topics.

Finding solutions, quick and painlessly.

Not only my experience proved that, despite the brevity, clients can create sustainable solutions. Who wouldn´t love this approach? 😊 Although it might seem strange, I have to say that this approach is not for everyone. For example, it is not working for people, who like to cultivate their problem, or they prefer to keep it (some are in love with their problem).

I don’t want to make the impression that as a client, you don’t need to work nor think and everything comes your way without any effort. Nothing is further from the truth. But it won´t be so hard and so annoying like thinking about problems.

Solution focused approach is only one of hundreds of techniques, not the best one, not for everyone. I personally fell in love with this approach from my first experience. And I understand why others find it very useful and catchy😊.

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Is hypnotherapy for me?

Important questions – answers you want to know before experience hypnotherapy.

Although “hypnotherapy” is nothing new for mankind, it is still shrouded in mystery. Probably because of the first part of the word “hypnosis”. For some people it may evoke feelings and images such as: laying on the coach, sleeping, loss of consciousness, manipulation, losing control over their behaviour…

In this article I want to give useful answers about some common questions. Maybe you were already thinking about using hypnotherapy to help yourself and this info can help you to decide. Perhaps you will realize now, that this powerful tool is safe and could work for you.

What is hypnosis?

Hypnosis -- or hypnotherapy -- uses guided relaxation, intense concentration, and focused attention to achieve a heightened state of awareness that is sometimes called a trance. The person's attention is so focused while in this state, that anything happening around this person is temporarily blocked out or ignored.

What does it feel like to be hypnotized?

Since hypnosis is a conscious, alert state, a hypnotic trance will not feel “unusual” to you at all. Clients (not only my clients) described it as a very pleasant, relaxing, calm experience. After hypnosis they wish “it” lasted longer😊. Mostly, they are surprised they were aware of what they were doing all the time. And felt they could choose to follow my suggestions or not. This point is very important to me, since I prefer not to use hypnosis in an authoritative way. I am giving the clients the possibility to co-create the process.

In this state you are able to focus deeply on what you are thinking about. Actually, this helps to activate all your sources to solve the issue. Don´t forget that because of hypnotherapy we are able to use more of our potential.

Is hypnosis a natural state?

Sorry to say, but hypnosis or trance won´t be for you an absolutely new experience, since we already experience this state on a daily basis 😊

Have you ever been so absorbed in your work that you lost track of what was going on around you? Have you ever had an experience of losing yourself in a book or a movie to the point that you forgot about everything else? Have you ever had the experience of driving your car, arriving at a destination, and not being able to fully remember what you saw along the way?

All of these experiences are common examples of self-induced hypnosis.

Athletes, musicians, dancers, actors, and other performing artists may become so completely immersed in their practice or performance that it is obvious to an observer that nothing else exists to them at that moment. They are in a hypnotic trance. The hypnotic trance experienced by athletes and performers is frequently called “the zone” or “flow”. During the state of hypnosis, athletes, artists and performers reach peak performance levels. Because of that, many professional sports teams have a hypnotist on staff.

Hypnosis it’s definitely a natural state, so the good news is that we can learn to use it to our advantage.

How does the hypnotherapy session look like?

No matter if our session is online or face-to-face – ** we start by talking. ** You won´t fall into a trance immediately when you enter the room😊. You will have the chance to ask me whatever about my method of work or anything else you are curious about. I will ask you about your goal, wishes, desired future so that we can define our cooperation contract. I need to know as well what is my aim as a therapist. From time to time it happens, that we continue the therapy without hypnosis, or we add this technique only at the end. Yes, I called hypnosis a technique, since it is “only a technique” and a good therapist shouldn’t be dependent on or adore only one. Every client is different and also, what they need may vary over time.

If we do hypnosis, we start with induction. It´s something like a gate to trance, hypnosis. It´s good to find a comfortable position (you don´t need to lay, in fact many clients prefer sitting position). There are many ways how to enter a trance, sometimes we use counting, another time it could be breathing or simply observing some object.

In trance itself I lead you into a deeply relaxed state. I use your agreed methods to help you towards your goals. You're fully in control when under hypnosis and don't have to take on the therapist's suggestions if you don't want to.

After this comes deinduction - it’s a phase in which we slowly and safely quit the trance. I prepare you and give you space to find your own tempo to “wake up”.

At the end of the session, we usually briefly reflect the whole experience

Can I be hypnotized to do something that I don´t want?

Hypnosis doesn't work if you don't want to be hypnotised. On other hand, neither too much cooperative attitude is helpful. I always say: “be open, you don’t need to help me neither fight against it, just be neutral, maybe curious”

What is hypnosis good for?

Hypnotherapy gives you the opportunity to amplify and use resources within yourself which you would usually consider to be outside the realm of your "normal" consciousness. If you were lacking in confidence or self-esteem, you could experience what it was like to speak in public with total confidence or be assertive in a positive way in a relationship.

It works by changing negative thought patterns and habits. Replacing them with healthy ones at a subconscious level.

Hypnotherapy can help you for example with: anxiety, depression, stress release, insomnia, smoking cessation, addiction, fears and phobias, self-esteem, chronic pain, weight management, IBS, motivation, sports performance, anger, bed wetting, public speaking, exam nerves and lots more.

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